“I’m not sure if I’ve completely disconnected the cord with some old relationships.”
I hear this quite often.
In my search for “cord cutting,” I couldn’t help but laugh at the results. Some were about the spiritual practice of releasing attachments, while others focused on canceling TV cable subscriptions—quite the mix! Today, I want to explore cord cutting in the spiritual sense: releasing unhealthy emotional ties and attachments.
What Is Cord Cutting?
In certain traditions, it’s believed that when we form bonds with others, we create invisible energetic cords that connect us to them. We also form ties to events, experiences, and even things. In negative relationships, these cords can become burdensome, hindering our growth, self-improvement, and inner peace.
Cord cutting is often seen as a powerful practice for releasing these unhelpful attachments and emotional ties. It helps heal past wounds and clears the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships that serve our highest good.
In my practice, I’ve often guided clients through cord cutting when I notice they’re struggling with unresolved feelings, experiences, or relationships that they can’t seem to move past.
When Should You Consider Cord Cutting?
I came across a helpful article on spiritualityhealth.com that explains when it may be time for a cord cutting. According to the article, “Cutting your energetic bond with another becomes necessary when your attachment to this person (or experience) is draining your life force and causing suffering. It’s not about cutting the person out of your life; instead, it’s about calling your energy back and returning the energy you’ve absorbed from them.”
Signs You May Need a Cord Cutting
Here are some examples of signs and reasons you may want to consider performing a cord cutting:
- The end of a relationship (romantic, friendship, or professional) where you find yourself unable to move forward.
- Feeling drained by an individual—your energy levels are depleted.
- Stuck in a loop, obsessing over a person or event that causes distress.
- Unexplained depression or sadness.
- Repeated illness or lowered immune function.
- Unhealthy habits or addictive behaviors.
- Speaking in a judgmental or deprecating way – holding onto bitterness and resentment that hinder personal growth.
What Should You Know Before Cutting a Cord?
Before attempting a cord cutting, consider the following:
- Why do you want to cut the cord?
- Do you understand the process and its impact?
- Have you done any research on cord cutting?
It’s important to be fully informed, emotionally prepared, and invested in the process for it to be effective.
How Do You Perform a Cord Cutting?
Now that you understand why you might want to cut the cord, let’s discuss how to do it.
In my sessions, I often use guided meditations with creative visualizations to help release emotional ties. This method is energetic and symbolic, rather than physically cutting cords.
For a more hands-on approach, you could try a Candle Cord Cutting Ritual, which involves candles, sage, a fireproof container, cotton yarn or thread, scissors, and water. In this ritual, you’d wrap the yarn around your body (such as your legs), chant an intention, pay attention to any emotions or resistance that may arise, and then cut the thread when you’re ready. When choosing the color for the candle and yarn, black is often preferred, but feel free to research color energy to choose one that resonates with you.
Other simpler practices include:
- Bathing: Let the water wash away negativity.
- Clarifying: Use incense or smoke to clear the energy around you.
- Journaling: Write down your emotions and intentions, then, when you’re finished, destroy the pages through burning (paper-burning cord cutting), flushing, or tearing them up. This symbolizes the release of those emotions.
Regardless of the method you choose, these practices can be incredibly effective and powerful. However, they do require patience, and in some cases, multiple attempts may be needed to unravel the layers of attachment. These practices help set intentions, encourage forgiveness, and offer release, creating space for new possibilities and personal growth.
We’re Here to Help
If you have any questions or would like more information, we’re here for you. Feel free to reach out, and let’s explore the power of cord cutting together.
Thank you!
Theresa Martinez-Shapiro
Flexible Being
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Theresa Martinez-Shapiro
Hello! I am Theresa Martinez-Shapiro; Wife to Robert. Founder of Flexible Being. A Master Reiki Therapist, Certified Oracle Guide, Spiritual Mentor/Guide, Intuitive Empath, Coach, and Educator. I am a fur mom to 3 cats and 1 dog – Sonny, Patches, Ryelee, and Winnie. We currently live and practice in Stockton, California. We operate three businesses – Shapiro Holistic Health and Chiropractic, Fusion Health APC, and Synergy Health MSO, where we seek to improve and change the lives of our patients and those we have the privilege of crossing paths with. My healing and mentoring journey began around 5 years old when I discovered that I was put on this planet to help others. I knew I was different, unique, and gifted. I did not see the world the same way everyone else did, and recognized I was meant to do so much more. I began to research, spending a lot of time reading & asking a lot of questions to anyone that wanted to share stories about their life experiences. I am a dreamer and had a unique relationship with the dream world. My very real, vivid & lucid dreams began turning into out-of-body experiences and unexplained occurrences. I began doing my own dream interpretations to look for patterns & a new way of deciphering life. Family members were part of many different religions, so I was educated in Catholicism, Buddhism, Metaphysics, and Native American culture & beliefs. Along the way, I took up multiple mentors that cultivated my growth and expansion of my gifts, allowing me to focus on my potential and purpose. As an adult, coworkers were unloading their life stories, internal secrets, and things that had not been shared or even spoken out loud. I began to share those experiences with my aunt & Reiki Master/Teacher, Carmen. In 2012, Carmen told me, “I think you are ready to walk the path I always knew you were meant to walk”. That saying began my obsessive journey into Reiki, Spirituality, Psychology, Intuition and Psychic gifts, Meditation and Mindfulness, Past Lives, Consciousness, Energy Medicine, Mysteries of the Universe, Moon and Sun cycles, Astrology, Numerology, Oracle Cards, Shamanism, & so much more. My journey has helped me to assist patients, clients, families, and friends discover who they have been, who they are, and who they want to become. I am expanding my reach and educating others by authoring Musings of a Flexible Being, and I look forward to sharing my journey with you. Thank you! Theresa Martinez-Shapiro Flexible Being Website: www.flexiblebeing.com Socials: Facebook: @flexiblebeingonline Instagram:@theresamartinezshapiro Instagram: @flexiblebeing
