In today’s hyper-connected world, comparison has become an ever-present challenge. The rise of social media and the constant exposure to carefully curated lives of others can lead us and our teenagers into a never-ending loop of self-doubt and dissatisfaction.
How many times lately have you compared yourself to someone on social media? Be honest. Last week alone I am sure I compared my house, my appearance, and a number of other things daily! DAILY!
I know I try to learn and teach my kids through practicing what I preach.
Having a teen and a tween I am hyper aware of what they are seeing online and their comparison to celebrities and influencers.
1. Understanding the Impact of Comparison:
Comparison is a natural human tendency. We often gauge our own self-worth by comparing ourselves to others, be it in terms of appearance, achievements, or success. However, this habit can be detrimental to our mental health and overall well-being. Constantly measuring ourselves against others can lead to feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, and anxiety, negatively affecting our self-esteem. For teenagers, this struggle with comparison can be even more intense. Adolescents are going through a phase of identity formation, and comparing themselves to their peers can heighten insecurities and hinder personal growth. In the world of social media, parents are constantly posting their kids achievements and accolades. Be mindful you don’t compare your own kid/kids to others and if you are the parent posting be mindful of the tone; avoid overly bragging excessively.
2. Identifying the Roots of Comparison:
To address the issue of comparison effectively, it’s crucial to recognize its underlying causes. Several factors contribute to the perpetuation of this behavior: a) Social Media: DUH! The carefully curated content on social media platforms can create unrealistic standards of living, success, and beauty, leading to unhealthy comparisons. b) External Validation: Seeking validation from others and tying our self-worth to external achievements can foster a constant need for comparison. c) Fear of Missing Out (FOMO): The fear of missing out on experiences can fuel the desire to compare ourselves with others’ seemingly exciting lives.
3. Strategies for Breaking Free from Comparison:
a) Cultivate Self-Compassion: Encourage yourself and your teens to be kind to themselves. Remind them that everyone has unique strengths and weaknesses, and it’s essential to embrace their individuality.
b) Limit Social Media Exposure: Social media can be a great platform for connection, it’s important to use it mindfully. Encourage regular breaks and help teens focus on their real-life accomplishments instead of virtual comparisons.
c) Practice Gratitude: Shifting the focus towards gratitude can help feelings of inadequacy. Keep a gratitude journal and encourage teens to write down things they are thankful for daily.
d) Set Realistic Goals: Help teens set achievable and personal goals rather than comparing themselves to others’ achievements. Celebrate their progress, no matter how small. e) Foster a Supportive Environment: Create an open and non-judgmental space where teens feel comfortable discussing their insecurities and fears. This support system can be invaluable in navigating the challenges of comparison.
In a world that constantly bombards us with comparisons, it’s vital to remember that each individual is on a unique journey. Whether it’s ourselves or the teenagers in our lives, embracing self-compassion, fostering gratitude, and limiting social media exposure can go a long way in breaking free from the comparison trap.
Nikki Lanigan
Nikki Lanigan is a yoga, HIIT, and Barre instructor, she is also a Holistic Health Coach through Institute of Integrative Nutrition. Nikki is trained in Yoga Shred, Yoga Psychology, meditation, chakra balancing, and EFT/Tapping. She has done trainings with Sadie Nardini and Ashley Turner. She got her 200 hour yoga teacher training in 2017 at the Carrie Treister School Of Yoga. Nikki takes a holistic view of health, helping her students and clients reach a place of self-love not just through movement, but with mindset and lifestyle guidance as well. Nikki is also show prep writer for The McVay Media Show Prep and host of the podcast Fit, Fun, and Frazzled. Connect with Nikki on Instagram. www.instagram.com/nikkilanigan.yogaandwellness www.instagram.com/fitfunandfrazzledpodcast
