Let me start by saying, I’m not a Swiftie. If I’m being honest, I used to hate on her. Why? No good reason. I was just being difficult. I have great self-awareness. However, she has won me over. I’ve been listening to The Life of a Showgirl album on repeat. I can’t believe I’m saying this, but it really is brilliant.
Why the change of heart? Yes, it’s Travis Kelce. If he loves her, so must I. I’ve been a Chiefs fan for 30-plus years, and I love watching Travis play. He is also just a big ole Golden Retriever. He is always smiling and happy and wagging his tail. As a person with suspect mental health, I truly admire him. Plus, they are just so stinking cute together. Those crazy kids have got to make it, or it may send me over the edge.
Back to Taylor and her music. I love every song on the new album, but Ruin the Friendship is the one that speaks to me most. It validates the choice I made 34 years ago.
You see, my best friend for about two years decided to ask me out. I immediately said no. I knew too much about his past. He was a bit of a ladies’ man. I was not falling for that shit. Plus, he was my best friend. I loved our relationship as it was. Why mess with a good thing? Seemed like a bad move.
I held out for about six months. He then started hooking up with this chick who made me insane. Yes, I was jealous. So, I told him to end it with Nut Job, and I would give him a chance.
If I’m being 100 percent honest, the reason I kept saying no to him was that I knew he was the one. I just was not sure I was ready for “the one.” However, I was tired of him screwing that wing nut, thus decided to go for it.
Long story short, we have been married for 33 years and still are best friends. I would not have it any other way. I honestly cannot imagine my life without Brett by my side.
I desperately want this for my daughter. She is a sophomore in college. Relationships have eluded her. She is so driven and focused. This is great, but she is overdue for some action.
I have seen a pattern of her “friend zoning” people. It worries me. When she was last home, I asked her if she had listened to the new Taylor Swift album much. She said a little. I told her that at some point, she is just going to have to kiss the person anyway and Ruin the Friendship. Taylor is a wise woman. Don’t wait for an invitation. Kiss them anyway!
I don’t know if Josie is listening to any of my Taylor Swift psychology, but dammit, it’s good advice. I wish she would take it.
I will keep trying. I’m totally that overbearing mom. I just want her to be happy and have someone who treats her well to share her life with. Josie is a catch. I don’t want her to have any regrets. Just ruin the friendship. I’m so glad I did. Friendship is the best start to any relationship.
Angela Traver
What is this blog about? Well, it's a general blog, but it is also a very specific blog. If you get that reference, you get a gold star! I have been a public relations professional and writer of press releases for more than 20 years—primarily in the booze biz. I decided to do some writing for fun and embrace the humor that gets me through most days. Hopefully it will make you chuckle—or at least smile. I’m a certified crazy magnet, and more than a little nutty myself, so buckle up. Also, I have two vices—profanity and red wine/whiskey. You’ve been warned. It should also be noted, that I’m a HUGE Bob & Sheri fan. I’ve been a listener for more than 20 years. This opportunity is a dream come true and it may have made me cry. That being said, I cry at everything. If you are into booze, dogs, food and/or knitting, hit me up on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter (although I’m terrible at Twitter and it scares me) @kyspiritsgal. You can also find all my previous blog posts at www.kyspiritsgal.com.
