In the world of social media, especially on platforms like Facebook and Instagram, it’s not uncommon to come across numerous mom groups where parenting experiences are shared. However, amidst the camaraderie, there’s a growing trend of competition and comparison, particularly when it comes to the belittling of how the youth are today and judgement.
A new thing I keep seeing pop up in Facebook groups I am in or on Instagram accounts I follow are moms shaming or judging other moms if their daughter has a Stanley Cup, is a Sephora beauty addict, has a phone, or is on social media. The memes I see are endless judging kids and moms. Let’s not forget the names adults call the youth today. I hear and see on social media everything from “Snowflake” “entitled brats” to this generation doesn’t have respect.
Let’s empower kids and moms in their choices they choose for their own family.
We live in a world filled with diverse parenting styles and choices, it’s disheartening to witness the judgment that some kids and moms face for embracing their preferences. Two common areas where judgment often surfaces are allowing kids to have Stanley cups and moms/tweens/teens shopping at Sephora.
Kids and Their Stanley Cups:
Every child is an individual with distinct likes and dislikes. Allowing kids to have Stanley cups, whether they’re passionate about a particular sports team or simply enjoy the novelty of these cups, is a way to encourage their personal interests. It’s crucial to recognize that these preferences are a part of their identity formation, helping them explore and express who they are.
Rather than judging, we can celebrate the diversity of interests among children, promoting an environment where they feel accepted for their choices. Kids having Stanley cups may be a way for them to connect with a favorite sport or team, fostering a sense of community and camaraderie. I know we had certain things we loved in the 90’s!
As long as a child isn’t being made fun of for not having a Stanley cup by other kids I don’t see any problem with kids wanting certain things. However I will not tolerate kids being mean to other kids for not having one!
Moms and Sephora:
For moms who enjoy shopping at Sephora, it’s essential to understand that self-care comes in many forms. Exploring beauty products can be a way for moms to indulge in a bit of self-love, enhancing their confidence and well-being. Rather than casting judgment, let’s appreciate the individuality of moms and their diverse ways of finding joy and self-expression. Let’s remember to teach our kids they don’t need to alter their face though. They are beautiful without the creams and makeup. But if this is something they enjoy doing and using it as a form of self care and their own creative expression as long as parents can afford these things let’s let the families embrace it.
I grew up with my mom teaching me about skincare from a young age, we would get facials on vacation when I was a kid, and manicures and pedicures. We got acrylic nails in the 90’s, I used Clinique skincare and makeup, MAC makeup, Estee Lauder skincare and makeup, and Chanel nail polish so to say that today’s youth are spoiled and entitled isn’t completely accurate. I know I wasn’t the only one from my childhood using these products. They were very popular so I think some adults are forgetting that there were very similar things we did in our youth and brands that were popular.
Breaking the Chains of Judgment:
1. Recognizing Diversity in Parenting:
Parenting styles vary, and what works for one family may not work for another. It’s crucial to break away from the notion of a one-size-fits-all approach to parenting. Acknowledge that every family is unique, with its own set of values, traditions, and preferences. A supportive community respects and embraces this diversity, recognizing that there is no universal standard for how kids should grow up or how moms should navigate their own lives.
2. Encouraging Open Dialogue:
Instead of passing judgment, let’s foster open and respectful conversations about parenting choices. Understand the motivations behind certain decisions, whether it’s allowing kids to have specific items or moms enjoying a shopping spree at Sephora. Engaging in meaningful discussions helps break down stereotypes and promotes a culture of empathy and understanding.
3. Celebrating Confidence and Individuality:
Empower kids and moms to embrace their confidence and individuality without fear of judgment. Whether it’s a child proudly sipping from a Stanley cup or a mom confidently shopping for beauty products, celebrate these moments as expressions of personal identity. Encourage a culture that uplifts rather than tears down, recognizing that our differences make us stronger as a community.
Our society often emphasizes conformity, let’s champion the beauty of diversity in parenting and individual choices. By breaking free from judgment and celebrating the uniqueness of each family and mom, we can create a society that thrives on understanding, acceptance, and support. This is the environment that kids can truly blossom into their authentic selves, and moms can navigate their journey with confidence and joy.
I want to encourage moms to support moms, our kids are watching us and seeing how we talk about others.
One last thing….. I want people to remember as adults, our parents didn’t have social media and never posted names they called us, they didn’t sit behind computer screens or their phones bashing our generation. Did they talk about us to their friends? Oh I am sure of it. I am sure they said similar things, however, it wasn’t constantly out their on the internet talking badly about our generation.
There is already enough stress, hatred, and judgement in the world. Everyone, ESPECIALLY MOMS can use more kindness, support, and love in their lives.
Nikki Lanigan
Nikki Lanigan is a yoga, HIIT, and Barre instructor, she is also a Holistic Health Coach through Institute of Integrative Nutrition. Nikki is trained in Yoga Shred, Yoga Psychology, meditation, chakra balancing, and EFT/Tapping. She has done trainings with Sadie Nardini and Ashley Turner. She got her 200 hour yoga teacher training in 2017 at the Carrie Treister School Of Yoga. Nikki takes a holistic view of health, helping her students and clients reach a place of self-love not just through movement, but with mindset and lifestyle guidance as well. Nikki is also show prep writer for The McVay Media Show Prep and host of the podcast Fit, Fun, and Frazzled. Connect with Nikki on Instagram. www.instagram.com/nikkilanigan.yogaandwellness www.instagram.com/fitfunandfrazzledpodcast
